Monday 22 November 2010

Freedom of expression v mendidik....

Thought of sharing some of my thoughts about parenting..dah lama tinggalkan ni sejak urang active di Ummiku sayang.....but i think i will continue now through my FB notes....

Mendidik anak jadi khalifah bermula dari kecil.

As important as it is to let children learn creativity & freedom of expression - rasanya ajar kemas tupun penting dalam mendidik anak-anak.

Tips to encourage your kids to join in mengemas and still allow creativity and learning.....

For me - upstairs and in the play room boleh sepah and gantung many things. I prepare many boxes for toys, so kalau dah habis main, ajak anak simpan balik. Kalau dah besar sikit - ajak dia sort out toys - eg blocks satu kotak, food-toys satu kotak, dolls satu kotak, pencil satu kotak. Macam main game. Kalau rumah apartment/single room, prepare one corner dengan kotak toyogo yang berlaci.....lepas sepah main ajak "JOM SIMPAN BALIK>>>>"

Living room is no-no...hanya boleh baca buku ( so that ada satu ruang kita simpan as tempat-cantik). This can help esp when u r maidless. Kalau stress boleh minum kopi kat living room.

Bab conteng dinding & tables - i usually line the walls with huge pieces of paper. Teaching respect for property starts from inner tarbiyah - nanti terbiasa pulak conteng dinding & meja..jadi grafitti artis. Kep many buku conteng & paper untuk dia melepas perasaan. The moment dia pegang pen, suakan kertas.

Mak/Ayah kena plan dulu aktiviti & ruang aktiviti sebelum biarkan anak explore.
Tabiat buruk nak buang bila dah besar lebih susah dari kalau dah jadi satu amalan hidup.

Nursery can do it with many kids because ada system & planning for the children. If you leave the child to explore with no boundaries (yang sesuai utk age dia) nanti dah besar lagi susah nak pusing balik. If the nursery you send your kids bersepah and tak terurus..then there must be a problem somewhere....

Remember - your child cannot do what she has not been taught or learnt by example. Ajar pun kena sambil kita buat & jangan marah kalau dia tak pandai atau lupa ( ini bab sabar yang tak tahan ni.....).

Alhamdulillah, sekarang ada maid yang boleh teruskan education ni...tapi dulu masa my 3 girls kecik & no maid - this is the system kak ina guna to keep sane. Even with the maid, gotong royong kutip toys and kemas playroom jadi nightly duty for my older girls so that we get up to a fresh house.

Remember - bukan suruh anak tapi ajak dia dan buat sama2..
Wallahu'alam...

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