Mummy thots....

When your child becomes a teenager, your role as a parent becomes more complicated...it is about being a friend and a guide..it is about being there when she needs you, yet not visible to the world as a dominant protecter. It is about letting her develop her self esteem & personality. Letting her choose but within safe guidelines. She will make mistakes but only Allah can protect her because she is no longer the little girl you carry around.
It is about gentle persuasion and support. 
Can you be that new parent? Can we learn to adjust?
Ya Allah guide us to be the protecters of our toddlers & infants and guide us to be guides to our older children.....

Diari Solehah episod 6

Diari Solehah episod 1

Working with Solehah & TV HIjrah...

Sounds pretty glamorous to become a facilitator & sponsor for a reality TV programme.....oh boy...but when it involves Syariat & the rules which govern the dress and protocol of Muslim women..you are open to a spectrum of human beings..some honest & tactful..but more often then not simply ruthless and insensitive.

What dictates perfection in a Muslimah who is set to be in the fore front? Huge parachute like clothes? Long hijab? Adherence to the concept of simplicity? Only hands & face to be seen? Simple makeup or none at all. Understanding the objective that the body figure must not be seen.....

We are talking lights, camera action here....we are talking about the grooming of young ladies with individual traits which make them influential for media & public.

Do we groom them to conform to the idealistic image which may not be palatable to many? How to weigh? We definitely want to maintain their chastity, their grace and feminism..we want to open their minds to see how the world outside live so that they can fulfill their duties.

Ya Allah please guide all that are involved to accept what is best for all the girls and all that are involved...got to go.....

ya Allah..i have not written for 6 months!!!!!!

Believe me so many things has happen over the last 6 months......where do i begin........

More FB originals......my thots....

told my PMR daughter - don't think it is just about studying...if u study hard but do bad things, Allah may return it in a way that you will be disappointed. u should remain in Allah's good books in all that you do, so that u will get the best as Allah is pleased with you. Best may not be straight As, it may even be a failure - but how u accept it and what comes After that is all in ALlah's hands. pray hard ♥
study gila-gila tapi x solat, perangai memalukan family....hari exam sakit kepala, demam, mind blank...itu dari Allah...jadi kena sama naik....not that my daugHter is nakal or anything but best to remind before.
ALso if you do fail even tho u have tried ur best...kalau hati bersama Allah, kita akan tenang and cari apa opportunity lain yang ada. I tHink all parents should take this route so that kita tak pressure diri + anak
Holistic is the name of the game - the pleasure of Allah as ur goal, Rasulullah as ur mentor & positivity as ur stand - ur set to succeed!
For the unmotivated child (especially the ones who are able to think for themselves..i would say 10 and above)
"If u do not study or do not strive to learn or perfect ur skills, the one who will lose out in the long run is YOURSELF."
If u have settled down to a life of playing & not doing homework & not cleaning your room - u must be prepared to face the future where u r not focused enough to finish any duty you are given.
You have trained your life to do what ever u want, whenever u want without responsibility to your family and yourself. How to succeed?
There is a time and place for everything.
If you don't discipline yourself as a pre-teen/teenager/young adult...chances are you will not as an adult...this applies to work, cleanliness, ibadah, responsibility, respect, focusing....hence the restless teen carries on in the uncontented adult....think about it....i find that myself like this...susah nak ubah amalan seumur hidup...
but it is not too late - if you do it as a family, the younger ones & those with good habits can help you channel positive energy and give you the strength to change bad habits....that is why many children can help to change their parents....aand why positive friends are the best friends......

Original thoughts penned in FB.....

When an earthquake happens, you can run to another country or work to rebuild & get help from other nations. When the ultimate earthquake happens when the sangkakala is blown, you can only turn to your iman & amal to be your saviour. Prepare yourself for the ultimate earthquake - there is no where to run....
If we work towards redha from Allah swt in all that we do , everything becomes ibadah...constant reminders & istighfar will give us the strength to carry on....always reminded that we should walk forth with love and fear of Allah in our hearts..act as if Allah is watching you all the time...May Allah give us all the strength to face life....and forgive our past, present & future sins....
I am so small...all that i can do is invite others to join me in making the world a better place....






A true achiever will not put others down in order to prove a point. Just work on your own strengths & highlight your own capabilities.


A Muslim should treat life like a fitness Boot Camp - loads of hurdles & obstacles to endure to reach the ultimate reward


If you do something really different, and then suddenly everyone else is doing the same thing, either you have set a trend or everyone was inspired at the same time or you have great intuition of what is going to happen or you just did not notice everyone doing it until you started doing it...


life's value is what you design it to be. What do you value in your life? Values and ideals change but it should change to make your life more rich and enriching. Today it may be your children who are on top of your value list. Tomorrow your parents or your spouse.Give all the valuable persons in your life a chance to be part of your life.


trials are what happens to you when you least expect it. Hence the importance of iman & ilmu to keep you from reacting in the wrong manner

my dad's passing in uks...

Assalamu'alaikum wth....

Thank you dear friends for visiting me and writing to me to share my grief.

There is so much i wish to share with all of you. How my children handled
the departure of their dearest grandfather( he had been baby-sitting them in
the evenings for the last 2 weeks of his life).
The feeling that this was all just a dream......
Probably it would have been different if he had been sick.
Probably it would have been different if he was really old.....
He was 55 ( just retired 2 months ago) and full of life.
He had lost weight, looked relaxed without the stress of work and
travelling.
He was enjoying the times spent with my daughters. Which he would not have
had the oppurtunity to do if he was still working.
He had just done his umrah last Ramadahan and his Hajj earlier this year.
May Allah bless his soul. May Allah have mercy on him.
Semoga hajinya haji mabrur.....

What i realised throughout all this is that i have no regrets. The last 2
weeks of his life was filled with togetherness. We spent a lot of time on
being family. I still remember him giving a hug & a kiss the night before he
died. He was helping me with a working paper for a Munawwarah project. He
died peacefully, he looked exactly like he was asleep.

I believe that we should all appreciate the people around us. Love and
cherish. Of course we argue and have our misunderstandings...but we should
hasten to forgive and make things right. If you feel a burst of emotion,
show it and say it. Kadang-kadang ianya alamat yang ajal seseorang itu akan
tiba.It's just that we don't realise it.
Because if you don't, you may regret it...it may be too late.
Allah akan mengambil nyawa setiap insan - it will happen to you, your
spouse, your parents, your child......we should all be prepared.....it does
not happen in chronological order.

Yang pergi tidak akan kembali. Tinggallah kami untuk meneruskan kehidupan di
alam ini. Doakan kekeutan kami. Doakan kesejahteraannya. Dan ambil iktibar
bahawa kematian boleh berlaku anytime any place any age. Just prepare
yourself.........


regards,
ina ali



Assalamu'alaikum...

Dear sisters....seems to me i have missed out on a lot of juicy (?!)
discussions. What with all the new issues at hand.....

Life has taken a new pace for me. Having to handle the trauma of losing my
dad and also having to be strong for my mother and my kids.
And life goes on.....
Exactly one month after my dad returned to rahmatullah, the WTC was
destroyed.....yet another domino piece falling in succession.

I remember feeling distraught when the riots were taking place in
KL...worrying how on earth my kids would survive a May 13 like curfew or
worse still a war.
Do you think our children are ready? Do you think we are ready?
Do we have the strength to face famine? To hide under ground? To live in
fear of rape and murder by 'crusaders'????
My mother was at the border of Afghanistan..at the Peshawar refugee
camps...about 7 years ago. The people live in mud houses. When it rains the
houses disintegrate and they rebuild after the rain stops....Can we do that?
Our children who fuss about skin on apples and no Mc Donald's Happy
meals....The same kids who insist on having 2 bantal peluks and wearing
comfy shoes.
We had Bosnian refugees living in our house..with tales of witnessing their
husbands blown to pieces in front of their eyes.

I once read a book about the wars in Europe. where they were forced to eat
horse meat and hide in the basement. Where the only source of water was 2
miles away. And was later polluted by dead bodies. Where the toilet was a
tin can in a corner. An dthe sewers were flooding into the basements....

And here we are...who fuss about hygiene and 3 square meals a day. Our
generation have not seen the like of the Japanese invasion. Nor the cloud of
13 May. They are all something distant.

And now..we see Malaysia on the list of US's terrorist gang.

I worry about in the event of war, how to explain to my kids they can't go
to the playground. That life has changed. Can they hack it????? Can we????

But sisters...it is faith and taqwa which will save us all. Educate the
children and ourselves on redha ( not as easy as it looks...) and
compassion. To accept whatever is before you.

Ameera keeps asking me why toki had to die. And insists that if she puts
flowers on the grave toki will be happy and will bangun. How do you tell a 3
year old that life's little pleasures are no longer ours to share?

I am being so morbid. But i think we should see all this in the perspective
that a war is not so far fetched. Nobody imagined that someone would ever
dream of placing 2 planes in a skyscraper.

To remind everyone..including myself ..it's a good time to read up on the
seerah and to read Surah Ahzab...about the perang khandak.

If this is the sign of akhir zaman..of the great wars....semoga Allah
lindungi kami and golongkan kami dalam mereka yang terselamat. Banyakkan
baca surah Kahfi to lindung us from the dajjal. And of course....solat hajat
to tolak bala from menimpa our families.

Sisters dear......i see death from a new light as someone so close left me
so suddenly with no sign.

YOu can die drinking a cup of coffee in your office becoz some crazy guy
wants to prove a point by sticking a plane's nose in your window. Or you can
escape the plane but die washed by lighted plane fuel rushing down the
elevator shaft.....

Or you could die lying on your bed.........wallahualam.....